Friends with benefits! This, for some guys, is the ultimate relationship. You get to have great sex, without worrying about being a good boyfriend – because you’re officially just friends. In reality, things can get pretty complicated in this sort of relationship, simply because of the emotions that are automatically stirred up when two people get it on. One person can find themselves having real feelings for the other and, if the feelings aren’t returned, this can lead to some serious emotional injury. To avoid any tricky situations, follow these “friends with benefits rules” to the letter!
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Rule 1: No romance, no jealousy
The whole point of this set-up is that you are just friends. Sure, you may be friends who are sexually attracted to each other, but that’s it. You are only helping each other to relieve some sexual tension, and if either of you starts to get romantic feelings you need to reassess your situation right away. You need to talk about things as soon as these feelings come into play, or one of you could end up getting hurt. It might be that you both feel the same way – which is great. It might be that it’s just a one-way thing. It’s best to know either way, really. The bottom line is that you’ve got no right to feel jealous of your “friends with benefits” being with other people unless you let them know exactly how you feel. The best advice is: if feelings develop, stop having casual sex.
Rule 2: Use a condom.
Always, always, always. It protects against unwanted pregnancy, as well as STIs (Sexually Transmitted Infections). Even if your friend is on the pill, even if it feels better without one – condoms are essential equipment and she is likely to respect you more for it.
It really is. Don’t feel bad about turning your friend away if they need some loving. When you have sex is entirely up to you – and the fact is that not being allowed to have you will probably make her want you even more next time. It’s sexy for a girl to be sleeping with a guy who is in a position of power and is prepared to say no, on occasion.
Rule 4: Prioritise.
Sex is fun, but real life comes first! Don’t jeopardise your job, your education or your friendships because of sex – no matter how much you enjoy it. At the end of the day, you need a life to live while you’re not getting your rocks off. Don’t lose track of the outside world.
Rule 5: Only when you’re single.
The most important of all the friends with benefits rules! If you are single, you can sleep with whoever you want to. If you get into a relationship you can’t. End of story. You need to agree with your friend that if either of you gets into a relationship the benefits end, however the friendship can continue. After all they may need support in the event of a breakup.
Although it’s okay to have “friends with benefits”, rules are essential. So long as you can keep your life in order and practice safe sex, there’s no reason not to take advantage of a great situation.
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