Friends with benefits! This, for some men, is the ultimate relationship. You get to have great sex, without worrying about being a great partner – because you’re officially just friends. Unfortunately there is a downside to this though, emotions are those annoying little butterflies that you just have no control over. One person can find themselves having real feelings for the other and, if the feelings aren’t returned, this can lead to some serious emotional injury.
To avoid any tricky situations, follow these ‘friends with benefits rules’ to the letter!
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Rule 1: Do not Romance Her, No Jealousy
You are just friends and this is the point. Attraction can be tricky, but ensure that you are only attracted to her sexually and as a friend, that’s it. You are only helping each other to release some sexual tension; and if either of you starts to get romantic feelings you need to reassess your situation right away. If feelings start to develop, you will need to discuss these otherwise someone will end up getting hurt.
If you talk about your change in feelings, you could uncover that there is a chance to build a true relationship. If your or hers change in feelings are not reciprocated it is best to know either way. If she ends your ‘friends with benefits’ due to another man coming along you need to be able to let go, as it was never going to last forever anyway.
Bottom Line is: if your feelings have changed, talk about it with her.
Rule 2: Use a condom
Roll it on before you start playing. It protects against unwanted pregnancy, as well as STIs (Sexually Transmitted Infections). Even if your friend is on the pill, it may feel better without one – condoms are essential equipment and she is likely to respect you more for it.
Rule 3: It is okay to say no
Men can say NO too. Don’t feel bad about turning your friend away if they need some loving. If you are strong enough to identify that you don’t want sex will most likely work in your favour as she is likely to want you more. Women are considerably more attracted to men that can hold their own and dictate terms to them.
Rule 4: Balance
Just remember your balance, don’t sacrifice life! Don’t put her before your other mates, job or education, no matter how fantastic it is. Living your life is important, don’t let your friend or you, put that at risk, it isn’t worth it. Make sure you keep it in perspective.
Rule 5: Only when you’re Single!
You want to know the most import thing about friends with benefit rules? If you are single, you can sleep around with any girl you wish to. If you start a relationship you need to end the benefit’s! You need to agree with your friend that if either of you gets into a relationship the benefits end, however the friendship can continue.
Most rules are made to be broken, but you need to be careful in a friends with benefits relationship. If you follow these basic principles you can make the most out of a fantastic situation.
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